Ok, so it seems I am far behind in updating on this subject. I have many more tips I have gleaned from personal experience that I would like to share. I’m trying to help you guys out….trust me.
As I mentioned earlier, it is totally ok for you to be interested or rather try to be interested in the things the girl you are trying to “win” is in interested in….but don’t make it a drastic change. Like don’t care less one week, and then the next want to be involved in every single thing she does. This once again, only creeps a girl out. For example, if she’s interested in politics and you could care less, but then you decide you like her and want to be involved in her interests and so all of a sudden you start texting and talking to the girl and asking questions about events and wanting to help and do things that totally don’t fit your nature or personality or don’t make any sense (like wanting to drive an hour to attend an event that’s not even in your county/district and the only person you will know there is the said girl), this can arouse suspicion in said girl and cause her to wonder what your motives are for doing such things.
Or if for example, the girl is really into music and so you decide to do music related things to try to work it out where she has to either practice with you or tune your violin (dude, you’ve been taking lessons for several years and you don’t know how to tune a violin? How did you ever get any practice done?) …..this once again leads to weirding the girl out.
If a girl doesn’t give you her number, and doesn’t tell you that you are more than welcome to text her, then DON’T!!
Also, following a girls dad to work doesn’t help your chances with the girl or the dad…this actually just creeps the dad out. It’s stalkerish. Especially when you drive 10 minutes out of your way to wait at a gas station so you can follow the dad as he drives by to his work which just happens to be nowhere close to where you work….yeah, not cool.
Probably one of the biggest, most important things I can offer in the way advice for you fellas out there is this….there are just some things you don’t need to pursue. You know that good ol’e saying “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again”? Well, that doesn’t apply to everything in life. There are just some things that after the first try, if you don’t succeed, hang it up. Yes it is good to be determined, focused, goal-orientated, a go-getter, persistent, etc. but all of these things can be taken to extreme. So, if you pursue a girl and she tells you she’s not interested, and then you decide you like her best friend and she tells you she’s not interested, and so you wait 1 ½ years and then you decide you like the first one again and she figures it out and tells you once again to leave her alone and that she’s not interested, it doesn’t really make sense to think that the best friend will have changed her mind either. I mean, dude, if they are not interested, they’re not interested so leave em’ alone, and get on with life.
Speaking of which, best girlfriends tell each other everything…… so yeah……
Bottom line is this…..if you like a girl or are interested in her then yes, if you don’t know much about her, hang around her some and find out more about her. Then go talk to the dad or a best friend of hers or something and see if she’s mutually interested….this is probably the best way to handle these situations.
Just trying to help.
(Dedicated to my dear friend JL)
