Wednesday, September 7, 2011
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
Long Overdue, I Now Give You Part 2
Ok, so it seems I am far behind in updating on this subject. I have many more tips I have gleaned from personal experience that I would like to share. I’m trying to help you guys out….trust me.
As I mentioned earlier, it is totally ok for you to be interested or rather try to be interested in the things the girl you are trying to “win” is in interested in….but don’t make it a drastic change. Like don’t care less one week, and then the next want to be involved in every single thing she does. This once again, only creeps a girl out. For example, if she’s interested in politics and you could care less, but then you decide you like her and want to be involved in her interests and so all of a sudden you start texting and talking to the girl and asking questions about events and wanting to help and do things that totally don’t fit your nature or personality or don’t make any sense (like wanting to drive an hour to attend an event that’s not even in your county/district and the only person you will know there is the said girl), this can arouse suspicion in said girl and cause her to wonder what your motives are for doing such things.
Or if for example, the girl is really into music and so you decide to do music related things to try to work it out where she has to either practice with you or tune your violin (dude, you’ve been taking lessons for several years and you don’t know how to tune a violin? How did you ever get any practice done?) …..this once again leads to weirding the girl out.
If a girl doesn’t give you her number, and doesn’t tell you that you are more than welcome to text her, then DON’T!!
Also, following a girls dad to work doesn’t help your chances with the girl or the dad…this actually just creeps the dad out. It’s stalkerish. Especially when you drive 10 minutes out of your way to wait at a gas station so you can follow the dad as he drives by to his work which just happens to be nowhere close to where you work….yeah, not cool.
Probably one of the biggest, most important things I can offer in the way advice for you fellas out there is this….there are just some things you don’t need to pursue. You know that good ol’e saying “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again”? Well, that doesn’t apply to everything in life. There are just some things that after the first try, if you don’t succeed, hang it up. Yes it is good to be determined, focused, goal-orientated, a go-getter, persistent, etc. but all of these things can be taken to extreme. So, if you pursue a girl and she tells you she’s not interested, and then you decide you like her best friend and she tells you she’s not interested, and so you wait 1 ½ years and then you decide you like the first one again and she figures it out and tells you once again to leave her alone and that she’s not interested, it doesn’t really make sense to think that the best friend will have changed her mind either. I mean, dude, if they are not interested, they’re not interested so leave em’ alone, and get on with life.
Speaking of which, best girlfriends tell each other everything…… so yeah……
Bottom line is this…..if you like a girl or are interested in her then yes, if you don’t know much about her, hang around her some and find out more about her. Then go talk to the dad or a best friend of hers or something and see if she’s mutually interested….this is probably the best way to handle these situations.
Just trying to help.
(Dedicated to my dear friend JL)
As I mentioned earlier, it is totally ok for you to be interested or rather try to be interested in the things the girl you are trying to “win” is in interested in….but don’t make it a drastic change. Like don’t care less one week, and then the next want to be involved in every single thing she does. This once again, only creeps a girl out. For example, if she’s interested in politics and you could care less, but then you decide you like her and want to be involved in her interests and so all of a sudden you start texting and talking to the girl and asking questions about events and wanting to help and do things that totally don’t fit your nature or personality or don’t make any sense (like wanting to drive an hour to attend an event that’s not even in your county/district and the only person you will know there is the said girl), this can arouse suspicion in said girl and cause her to wonder what your motives are for doing such things.
Or if for example, the girl is really into music and so you decide to do music related things to try to work it out where she has to either practice with you or tune your violin (dude, you’ve been taking lessons for several years and you don’t know how to tune a violin? How did you ever get any practice done?) …..this once again leads to weirding the girl out.
If a girl doesn’t give you her number, and doesn’t tell you that you are more than welcome to text her, then DON’T!!
Also, following a girls dad to work doesn’t help your chances with the girl or the dad…this actually just creeps the dad out. It’s stalkerish. Especially when you drive 10 minutes out of your way to wait at a gas station so you can follow the dad as he drives by to his work which just happens to be nowhere close to where you work….yeah, not cool.
Probably one of the biggest, most important things I can offer in the way advice for you fellas out there is this….there are just some things you don’t need to pursue. You know that good ol’e saying “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again”? Well, that doesn’t apply to everything in life. There are just some things that after the first try, if you don’t succeed, hang it up. Yes it is good to be determined, focused, goal-orientated, a go-getter, persistent, etc. but all of these things can be taken to extreme. So, if you pursue a girl and she tells you she’s not interested, and then you decide you like her best friend and she tells you she’s not interested, and so you wait 1 ½ years and then you decide you like the first one again and she figures it out and tells you once again to leave her alone and that she’s not interested, it doesn’t really make sense to think that the best friend will have changed her mind either. I mean, dude, if they are not interested, they’re not interested so leave em’ alone, and get on with life.
Speaking of which, best girlfriends tell each other everything…… so yeah……
Bottom line is this…..if you like a girl or are interested in her then yes, if you don’t know much about her, hang around her some and find out more about her. Then go talk to the dad or a best friend of hers or something and see if she’s mutually interested….this is probably the best way to handle these situations.
Just trying to help.
(Dedicated to my dear friend JL)
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Dear Young Man Who May Be Trying To Win Some Fair Maiden's Heart,
Here are some tips on what NOT to do!
First let me start off by saying that just because a girl talks to you or gives her input in a group conversation doesn't mean she likes you.
1) It's good if you are interested in a girl to show interest in who she is and the things she likes to do, etc. However, this can be taken too far. You do not need to know what her daily schedule is like...there is no need to drive 10 minutes out of your way to work to "get gas" in which you take an out of the way route to get to said gas station which just happens to take you by the girls house. And it is especially not smart to do this in the morning when dad and brother see you pass by as they leave for work. While a girl does like to know that a guy is interested in her (well I'm reffering to mutual interest) and takes interest in the things that matter to her...acting as a surveillance camera and watching her every move just creeps her out.
2)When it comes to conversing with a girl you are interested in, try to pick topics or things to talk about that makes sense and not like some random thing you thought up just so you can approach her and have something to "say" to her. Never approach a girl and start the conversation with "did I pass you on this such and such road on this such and such day at this such and such time?" Again, this qualifies as being a "surveillance camera" and only freaks the girl out.
3) If you are not in an official relationship with the girl yet, or not totally sure that the girl likes you, then it is best that you not make your "interest" in the girl too obvious. For example - when ushering, do not pick the side that she sits on in church to walk by everytime you usher. Another example would be putting her first at the list of names of your e-mail forwards.
4) If the girl is talking to someone or several persons, do not approach them and start talking to all the other persons except her...this only annoys her at it is obvious that you want to be around, but you are interrupting her conversation with said persons so you can talk about random stuff just to be around the said girl that you like....weird!!
Speaking of weird....what is a girl and family supposed to glean from a guy following them home from church (when he lives like 3 min. from church) and then branching off on a different road, only to speed by us headed in the opposite direction on the road that we live off of. I mean, is he trying to see if he can beat us to our house by going a different way? What's the point of that? He doesn't live there....
5) Do not, I repeat, DO NOT, try to be like her father in everything. That is so not going to help you. Following her dad everywhere, hanging around with him, dressing like him, trying to get the same job as he has, etc....this only turns a girl off. It's good to talk and get to know the dad, etc. but you can do this without having to be just like him.
These are some of the main points....if I think of anymore I'll let you fellas know. Hope this helps!
(would like to thank my friend JL for her contribution in helping write this post).
First let me start off by saying that just because a girl talks to you or gives her input in a group conversation doesn't mean she likes you.
1) It's good if you are interested in a girl to show interest in who she is and the things she likes to do, etc. However, this can be taken too far. You do not need to know what her daily schedule is like...there is no need to drive 10 minutes out of your way to work to "get gas" in which you take an out of the way route to get to said gas station which just happens to take you by the girls house. And it is especially not smart to do this in the morning when dad and brother see you pass by as they leave for work. While a girl does like to know that a guy is interested in her (well I'm reffering to mutual interest) and takes interest in the things that matter to her...acting as a surveillance camera and watching her every move just creeps her out.
2)When it comes to conversing with a girl you are interested in, try to pick topics or things to talk about that makes sense and not like some random thing you thought up just so you can approach her and have something to "say" to her. Never approach a girl and start the conversation with "did I pass you on this such and such road on this such and such day at this such and such time?" Again, this qualifies as being a "surveillance camera" and only freaks the girl out.
3) If you are not in an official relationship with the girl yet, or not totally sure that the girl likes you, then it is best that you not make your "interest" in the girl too obvious. For example - when ushering, do not pick the side that she sits on in church to walk by everytime you usher. Another example would be putting her first at the list of names of your e-mail forwards.
4) If the girl is talking to someone or several persons, do not approach them and start talking to all the other persons except her...this only annoys her at it is obvious that you want to be around, but you are interrupting her conversation with said persons so you can talk about random stuff just to be around the said girl that you like....weird!!
Speaking of weird....what is a girl and family supposed to glean from a guy following them home from church (when he lives like 3 min. from church) and then branching off on a different road, only to speed by us headed in the opposite direction on the road that we live off of. I mean, is he trying to see if he can beat us to our house by going a different way? What's the point of that? He doesn't live there....
5) Do not, I repeat, DO NOT, try to be like her father in everything. That is so not going to help you. Following her dad everywhere, hanging around with him, dressing like him, trying to get the same job as he has, etc....this only turns a girl off. It's good to talk and get to know the dad, etc. but you can do this without having to be just like him.
These are some of the main points....if I think of anymore I'll let you fellas know. Hope this helps!
(would like to thank my friend JL for her contribution in helping write this post).
Sunday, July 4, 2010
What is means to me to be an American
I’ve been thinking about this for the past few days as we approach Independence Day (or rather the day that we celebrate our Independence).
The America I live in today is so very different from what it was when I was born, especially in the political spectrum (I mean we’ve gone from having someone like Reagan to Obama).
While I become increasingly disappointed in our current leadership to the point that it’s actually turned into fear of the power they have, I truly can’t dream of living anywhere else (even though I say I’m going to move like every other day :P )
So, what does it mean to me to be an American?
Why am I proud to be an American?
A true American is a patriot. One who firmly believes in the cause, in the individual liberties granted to all men by an Almighty God. A patriot will fight for God, Family, and Country. They will fight for what is right regardless of the persecution or consequences.
It’s been happening since America was founded. Patriots fought for independence from a dictatorial England. Baptists preachers (patriots) suffered persecution in America in their fight against the push for a state church, which eventually became illegal once our constitution was established. Soldiers fought for the freedom of others in the Civil War, World War I & II, Korean War, Vietnam, and the Iraqi Wars, etc.
I always think of the soldier who goes to fight for his country….willing to face death for a person (s) he’s never met or known. Why? Because he believes in the cause, in the individual liberties granted to all men, because he loves his country. I don’t know about you but hearing “taps” sends chills up my spine, and tears down my cheeks. They made the ultimate sacrifice, just like Jesus did for every human being.
I’m proud to say that I’m an American, that I live in a nation that has a rich heritage in the belief of an Almighty God and was established with godly principles. I’m proud of what part of the nation I’m from too. Ain’t no place better than the South! :D I’m proud to live in a place where God is still feared (by most), people are still respected, and fallen heroes are honored with the whole town turning out to stand at attention and wave the American flag as the hearse drives by.
I pray that I can be the American patriot that my forefathers were, that no matter what the cost I will not compromise but rather “gladly stand up next to you and defend her still today, cause their ain’t no doubt I love this land, God bless the USA.”
HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY EVERYONE!!!!
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Predictions: to believe or not to believe?
Many professors, preachers, historians, and others have given many predictions for hundreds of years. Some have come true, some have not. For example predictions that haven't come true...
“I think there is a world market for maybe five computers.” — Thomas Watson, chairman of IBM, 1943
“There is not the slightest indication that nuclear energy will ever be obtainable. It would mean that the atom would have to be shattered at will.” — Albert Einstein, 1932
"that Jesus would come back before 1988" - Hal Lindsey
Then there have been the predictions that have come true like:
"Obama being our next President" (sadly)
"that the healthcare bill would pass" (unconstitutionally!!!!)
With this in mind we will turn to a prediction that has to do with my future..... since I was 4 or so there has been a "gang", three girls that have done pretty much everything together. It would consist of me, and two of my girlfriends, one of which is getting married this weekend.
Predictions by many (moms, etc.) when I was 16 or so, was that I would be married first, since at that time I said that I wasn't going to get married at all! he he
Well, since my friend, Kristan, the girl in the pic with me on the left, is getting married this Saturday, this means that the prediction that I would be first, is well - false!
Well, lo and behold there's a new prediction going around...care to guess what it is? Believe it or not, it's that I will be next. Gasp!!! I would like to take this time to look at this prediction from a logical standpoint...
First of all if we were going by age to see who would be first to get married, then I would be last of the three since I am the youngest.
If we are going by first name alphabetically I would be last, and if we were going alphabetically backwards, I would be first (which isn't happening).
If we were going alphabetically by last name, I would be first (which isn't happening), and if we were going alphabetically backwards then I would be last.
If we were going by middle name alphabetically I would be last, and if we were going alphabetically backwards, I would be first (which isn't happening).
If we were going by height, I would most definately be last! And if we were going by maturity, based between the three of us, I'm pretty sure I would be last. *halo*
So, there's no way logically that I would be second.....so it would totally have to happen randomnly or something. Basically my odds for being next is, well, slim to none.
So, the prediction that I will be next(second) and that I HAVE to catch the bouquet at the wedding I would say are false.
First of all what does catching the bouquet have to do with getting married next or not? It is for this reason that I purposefully don't catch bouquets because that's what comes with it - "oh, you're going to be next!"
So yeah, don't tell me I have to catch the bouquet, that just makes me want to stand there and step aside when it comes my way and let it fall to the ground (that's what happened at a wedding last yr.) all the more. :P
But then again, I might try to catch them....it depends on if any single dudes come to the wedding and what they look like, and if people will try to match make me up with one of em.....but my reason for catching them would be to prove everyone wrong when I turn out not to be "next". :P
“I think there is a world market for maybe five computers.” — Thomas Watson, chairman of IBM, 1943
“There is not the slightest indication that nuclear energy will ever be obtainable. It would mean that the atom would have to be shattered at will.” — Albert Einstein, 1932
"that Jesus would come back before 1988" - Hal Lindsey
Then there have been the predictions that have come true like:
"Obama being our next President" (sadly)
"that the healthcare bill would pass" (unconstitutionally!!!!)
With this in mind we will turn to a prediction that has to do with my future..... since I was 4 or so there has been a "gang", three girls that have done pretty much everything together. It would consist of me, and two of my girlfriends, one of which is getting married this weekend.
Predictions by many (moms, etc.) when I was 16 or so, was that I would be married first, since at that time I said that I wasn't going to get married at all! he he
Well, since my friend, Kristan, the girl in the pic with me on the left, is getting married this Saturday, this means that the prediction that I would be first, is well - false!
Well, lo and behold there's a new prediction going around...care to guess what it is? Believe it or not, it's that I will be next. Gasp!!! I would like to take this time to look at this prediction from a logical standpoint...
First of all if we were going by age to see who would be first to get married, then I would be last of the three since I am the youngest.
If we are going by first name alphabetically I would be last, and if we were going alphabetically backwards, I would be first (which isn't happening).
If we were going alphabetically by last name, I would be first (which isn't happening), and if we were going alphabetically backwards then I would be last.
If we were going by middle name alphabetically I would be last, and if we were going alphabetically backwards, I would be first (which isn't happening).
If we were going by height, I would most definately be last! And if we were going by maturity, based between the three of us, I'm pretty sure I would be last. *halo*
So, there's no way logically that I would be second.....so it would totally have to happen randomnly or something. Basically my odds for being next is, well, slim to none.
So, the prediction that I will be next(second) and that I HAVE to catch the bouquet at the wedding I would say are false.
First of all what does catching the bouquet have to do with getting married next or not? It is for this reason that I purposefully don't catch bouquets because that's what comes with it - "oh, you're going to be next!"
So yeah, don't tell me I have to catch the bouquet, that just makes me want to stand there and step aside when it comes my way and let it fall to the ground (that's what happened at a wedding last yr.) all the more. :P
But then again, I might try to catch them....it depends on if any single dudes come to the wedding and what they look like, and if people will try to match make me up with one of em.....but my reason for catching them would be to prove everyone wrong when I turn out not to be "next". :P
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Oh the joys of singlehood......
To the Dude who was hitting on me at Hog Day today....
I don't know what makes you think that I might be interested... If it's because I was friendly well that's how I am to any potential voter or volunteer to the campaign. If it's because I acted like I was interested in your life story, once again, that's because I was being nice. If it's because I was wearing a marine sticker....I had that on long before you came to our booth and told us you were a marine.
So yeah, you took my business card....go ahead, call, but I won't answer.
The only thing you've got going for you is that you are a little cute and nice....but the fact that you've traveled a lot means that you must be a good bit older than me, and if you think you can call a girl and ask her out on a date after talking to her for 5 minutes, then you must be desperate.....
So yeah, I'm smart enough to know that niceness and somewhat cuteness isn't everything.....there are more important things like
1) Do you know Jesus Christ as your personal Saviour?
2) Do you go to church?
3) Do you spend time reading God's word everyday?
4) Are you a Republican?
5) What kind of music do you listen too?
6) How many girlfriends have you had in the past year?
7) What kind of car do you have?
8) Do you come from a good family? ( not rich, just ya know, not a broken home or anything)
9) Are you in debt?
10) What kind of movies do you watch?
These questions answered would give me a better idea of what kind of person you are, and then if they were satisfactically answered, after talking to my dad, then maybe, just maybe.....we could go on a "date".
Sorry, but that's how I operate.....
Sincerely,
The single girl you saw at a Repubican Booth but didn't even tell her your name.....
I don't know what makes you think that I might be interested... If it's because I was friendly well that's how I am to any potential voter or volunteer to the campaign. If it's because I acted like I was interested in your life story, once again, that's because I was being nice. If it's because I was wearing a marine sticker....I had that on long before you came to our booth and told us you were a marine.
So yeah, you took my business card....go ahead, call, but I won't answer.
The only thing you've got going for you is that you are a little cute and nice....but the fact that you've traveled a lot means that you must be a good bit older than me, and if you think you can call a girl and ask her out on a date after talking to her for 5 minutes, then you must be desperate.....
So yeah, I'm smart enough to know that niceness and somewhat cuteness isn't everything.....there are more important things like
1) Do you know Jesus Christ as your personal Saviour?
2) Do you go to church?
3) Do you spend time reading God's word everyday?
4) Are you a Republican?
5) What kind of music do you listen too?
6) How many girlfriends have you had in the past year?
7) What kind of car do you have?
8) Do you come from a good family? ( not rich, just ya know, not a broken home or anything)
9) Are you in debt?
10) What kind of movies do you watch?
These questions answered would give me a better idea of what kind of person you are, and then if they were satisfactically answered, after talking to my dad, then maybe, just maybe.....we could go on a "date".
Sorry, but that's how I operate.....
Sincerely,
The single girl you saw at a Repubican Booth but didn't even tell her your name.....
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Welcome to my blog
So...I guess this means I will officially close my Xanga that I haven't posted on in like two years, ha ha.....I was reading through my old posts....
http://elect35.xanga.com/?uni6947030-direction=p&uni6947030-nextdate=12%2f20%2f2006+0%3a56%3a12.090#module-6947030
http://elect35.xanga.com/584832956/caution-do-not-write-papers-in-your-sleep/
http://elect35.xanga.com/609741716/item
http://elect35.xanga.com/627309886/i-be-smart
http://elect35.xanga.com/630032844/soo
I think those are some of my favorites. :D
I had a blogspot once before too, but, to play a trick on Steve Fair once, I put all my stuff as private and forgot my password and everything, so yeah....it still exists. I would close it if I could remember how to get into it, ha ha!
So, anyways.....Vanessa thinks I should start a blog.....so here it is. What do you think of the layout?
http://elect35.xanga.com/?uni6947030-direction=p&uni6947030-nextdate=12%2f20%2f2006+0%3a56%3a12.090#module-6947030
http://elect35.xanga.com/584832956/caution-do-not-write-papers-in-your-sleep/
http://elect35.xanga.com/609741716/item
http://elect35.xanga.com/627309886/i-be-smart
http://elect35.xanga.com/630032844/soo
I think those are some of my favorites. :D
I had a blogspot once before too, but, to play a trick on Steve Fair once, I put all my stuff as private and forgot my password and everything, so yeah....it still exists. I would close it if I could remember how to get into it, ha ha!
So, anyways.....Vanessa thinks I should start a blog.....so here it is. What do you think of the layout?
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